One thing I learned while in SWIHA was that no matter what people do bad, if you look deeply enough you will find good intent. You must be thinking how could that shoplifter at the grocery store have good intent? Never mind that the person ran out the door with unpaid groceries and there is no excuse for this behavior and it could have been handled differently….this we all know. The part of the exercise in school was to look past the wrong doing and try to figure out why the person did this. We could assume the thief is lazy and does not want to work and wants their food for free, or we could dig deeper. Could he possibly have been turned down for many jobs, spent his last dollar to keep his utilities on and have children at home who have not eaten in days? Who knows. The whole point is, we can assume a thief a terrible person with everything we could possibly imagine in our minds. For me, I would like to think that everyone has good intent somewhere in their hearts. People do not always make the best judgement under extreme stress and do not problem solve the way society would like. This still gives no right for judgement. I will admit, I had a really hard time with this assignment when it was given. I am sure there are some out there with pure evil intent, but I will admit when I looked deep enough, there was something good there.
Recently I was on the opposite side of assumptions and called names from someone who I thought knew me better. They heard something and automatically assumed they knew the details. Instead of calling to talk it over or private message me, they blasted a post on their FaceBook timeline without naming me. When I first read the post I wondered who they were speaking of, because it did not sound like it was about me. The more I thought about it and the more I saw posts over a couple of days the pieces started to come together. Some recent events made me realize that some people spoke about me and my family and no one knew of all the details. Instead of calling to ask us directly, assumptions were made. When I first realized it was about me, I was angry, not my spiritual self where I feel we were all one and love is the answer. I felt hurt, as well as betrayed. After thinking about it for a while, I think the person doing the posting felt hurt and betrayed as well. They thought I was like another person who had entered the family for a short while and completely took advantage of peoples kindness. I am NOT that person and will NEVER be anything like that person.
Basically, we had good intent behind what we were doing and it never crossed our minds that it was something that would upset anyone. I suppose the most horrible thing was that we did not point it out. But, we were not hiding it either.
People say they do not feel equal. The sad part is, maybe the people who you think do not treat you equal do not feel that way. They did not know you felt that way because you never speak up. Just say it, yell it, whatever you have to do to be heard.
I am honestly just sad at how everything has turned up. I look back at pictures and we all seemed happy. We laughed, ate, and seemed to care for one another. I have blocked people on FaceBook and decided to use it primarily for business. I feel some did not deserve to be blocked but I felt humiliated by the posts that were made. If I look for the good in all that has happened I would say I spend much less time on FaceBook and more time with people who are compassionate and care about me. They know that no matter what mistakes I make there is good intent within me. If I really believe I was any of the things the person called me, I would not be able to look in the mirror.
I will never post on FaceBook in hopes the person that it is aimed at will read it. I will not hide behind my timeline and will go directly to the person in question in private to resolve the matter. I felt the way it was handled was unfair and a means to belittle me.